YOUR FINAL WISHES......... Writing down exactly what you want regardless of your age is a kind and responsible thing for any adult to do for those left behind. Whether you want GREEN BURIAL, PACIFIC SEA BURIAL or CREMATION - write it down. (Remember when you die that baseball card collection, china set , all the books , all those amazing shoes and your Body are just a bunch of stuff that your friends and relatives will have to try and figure out what to do with .Help them out now before you go. Let them know what you want done and write it all down.
Did you know that after Hospice care ends it is possible to have the funeral in your home ? Find out all about a HOME FUNERAL:
(ALL of our KINKARACO ® reseller funeral homes have signed an agreement to help families with home funerals in any capacity they may request. Find them HERE. )
KINKARACO ® has always pioneered the choice of HOME FUNERAL when a family requests it. These are some of the certified home funeral guides we have worked with successfully and have found professional & reliable:
SACRED CROSSINGS- Olivia Bareham, Los Angeles, CA. 310-968-2763
FINAL PASSAGES- Jerrigrace Lyons, Bay Area, CA. (707) 824-0268
DOORWAY INTO LIGHT -Bodhi Be, Maui HI 808-283-5950 cell
A SACRED MOMENT - Char Barrett, Lucinda Williams Seattle, WA. (425) 316-8290
AFTER DEATH HOMECARE- Merrilynne Rush Ann Arbor MI 734-395-9660
RHEA M. Von BRANDENBURG - Funeral Director , Hagerstown/Frederick MD. 240-329-6921
( photos: courtesy of Mrs. Judith Adams and SACRED CROSSINGS )
Want your ashes scattered from the sky? Contact a company in your area that scatters ( ashes) from an airplane over the place you or a loved one loved most. You can see what is offered in that area by googling Aerial Ash Scattering to find a company who scatters ashes by plane in your State or Province . Here are some Aerial Ash Scattering services in California :
2153 Caulfield Lane
Petaluma CA 94954
The passing of a dear friend or family member can create a state of mind that requires special attention .One may not want to eat at all , perhaps drink more alcoholic or only coffee, smoke more cigarettes. It is very imporatnt to take good care of yourself because you are living. Other people ,maybe children ,may also be having a difficult time as you are. Ask for what you need. If you are able, make a strong determination to try and care take good care for yourself first -like on an airplane when they tell ypou to place the oxygen mask on yourself first) Take care of yourself as if you were your own precious child...THEN take care of the children and others. For years people in a compromised grieving state have allowed themselves to be taken advantage of by unethical funeral directors. NO MORE ! Get educated on your options and stay strong.We have vetted KINKARACO ® resellers who came to us when others would not, who have proved themselves kind and ethical who can help. KINKARACO RESELLERS (click here)
When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
And some dead echo drags your voice down
Where words have no confidence
Your heart has grown heavy with loss;
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.
Flickers of guilt kindle regret
For all that was left unsaid or undone.
There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.
It becomes hard to trust yourself.
All you can depend on now is that
Sorrow will remain faithful to itself.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.
Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
To wean your eyes
From that gap in the air
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.
John O’Donohue 1956-2008
Here is a recipe for healing , clarity and stability:
Esmerelda's Green Drink-
First you need a good strong blender (Black & Decker Cyclone, Vitamix, Bullet, etc.) :
You can find all these ingredients at Whole Foods or other health food grocery.
On the bottom put:
2 cups raw organic Kale
1 cup organic Blueberries
1 cut up , cored & peeled organic apple
1 stalk of cut up organic Celery
3" of an organic Cucumber
1 TBS. Chlorella or Spirulina powder
1TBS. Maca root powder
1 TBS. Chia seeds
1 Tbs Flax seeds
1 scoop Vanilla Whey Protein
8oz. Organic Almond Milk or Unsweetened Coconut water
Blend and drink every morning within 1 hour of waking.
Tastes like new life.Even if you eat nothing else all day you will be nourished & energized.It's delicious!Plus making this GREEN DRINK will keep you occupied and focused on taking care of yourselfand keep your mind on something positive first thing in the morning....
1. DRINK WATER instead of coffee, alcohol or soda - drink it all day every day
2. GET IN WATER- hot baths , hot tubs, saunas, swimming pools ,lakes and warm oceans.
3. GO ON RETREAT- The dreamlike period after someone close has passed is different for everyone. Surrounding ourselves with loving friends who will let us just be and not tell us to "move on" before we are ready .Going on a retreat away in a beautiful place for awhile if possible.Care for yourself like you were your own loving parent .
Write down or just think about everything you really loved most about the person who died and absorb it making it part of you .Such as -
1. Kind, Considerate & Loving
2. Really good listener
3. Made me ( and everyone) laugh
4. Great cook!
5. Good dancer.
6. Beautiful with great style ( or just plain beautiful)
Take on what you loved about them most and become determined to adopt one or many of these characteristics you loved to give back
as a living memorial to others you will meet.
BE what you loved about them most. This way you will be keeping them alive within you always !
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